"Knowing the difference between support and permission is a must" that's the line I'll be sitting with. I've asked for a lot of the second thing while telling myself it was the first.
Thank you also for the part about blending into someone else's background as a kid. That's a very particular kind of quiet, and I suspect a lot of women who end up building their own thing recognise it without ever having said it out loud.
Freedom as autonomy rather than rebellion feels like the far more sustainable version. Rebellion still needs something to push against. This doesn't.
I appreciate your kind words Caroline! 💕🌸 yes, building my own things is a sense of expression of my independence! But that also means that I had to build an awareness of my own boundaries with myself and other people, knowing when to ask for help as well. :)
It’s crazy how sometimes living the life truly meant for you are that you truly want is found by meeting back with that child version of you. I feel like the dreams we experience as a child are often the ones that truly reflect us, before the adaptation to our environnement, before we are more centered on others, before what we experience, before we ear what everyone as to say. Combing back to it really spark something in our adult version and I find it so beautiful 🫶🏼
Thanks for your comment 💕 yes… I find it’s so important to unpack those childhood memories. We will find a lot of guidance and direction from those early years, actually!
Hey Barbara! Thanks for your comment. Indeed, it really is a chicken and egg situation with the pursuit of freedom. But freedom is also in the little things. The ways we choose to show up. How we decide to spend our time – that’s freedom too. Running a business or being a freelancer is only a small segment of freedom!
"Knowing the difference between support and permission is a must" that's the line I'll be sitting with. I've asked for a lot of the second thing while telling myself it was the first.
Thank you also for the part about blending into someone else's background as a kid. That's a very particular kind of quiet, and I suspect a lot of women who end up building their own thing recognise it without ever having said it out loud.
Freedom as autonomy rather than rebellion feels like the far more sustainable version. Rebellion still needs something to push against. This doesn't.
I appreciate your kind words Caroline! 💕🌸 yes, building my own things is a sense of expression of my independence! But that also means that I had to build an awareness of my own boundaries with myself and other people, knowing when to ask for help as well. :)
It’s crazy how sometimes living the life truly meant for you are that you truly want is found by meeting back with that child version of you. I feel like the dreams we experience as a child are often the ones that truly reflect us, before the adaptation to our environnement, before we are more centered on others, before what we experience, before we ear what everyone as to say. Combing back to it really spark something in our adult version and I find it so beautiful 🫶🏼
Thanks for your comment 💕 yes… I find it’s so important to unpack those childhood memories. We will find a lot of guidance and direction from those early years, actually!
Thanks for the article and the personal story.
I am not yet on my own adventure, but it was always tempting for me to have my own business as a way to, as you put it, explore freedom.
The worry that comes with that, though, is not being able to pay the bills, which then generates the sense of being captured again.
One step at a time
Hey Barbara! Thanks for your comment. Indeed, it really is a chicken and egg situation with the pursuit of freedom. But freedom is also in the little things. The ways we choose to show up. How we decide to spend our time – that’s freedom too. Running a business or being a freelancer is only a small segment of freedom!